The kids at co-op made cards for her last Friday, and she saved them for the drive to the hospital on Monday. She thoroughly enjoyed reading them and kept exclaiming and pointing parts out to me. They brought her great joy. Thank you to everyone who gave her gifts and cards and to everyone who texted with her yesterday. You all helped immensely.
I've discovered a new source of water, and it tastes good.
They are calling maintenance to figure out why it is so hot in here.
God showed me what to start praying for my waiting buddies.
I remembered that I brought Christmas presents to work on.
Hooray! God is very kind to me. :-)
Well, my friends. Now I am just passing the time.
I've put a pretty new autumn theme on my web browser. Well, Jeremy did that because technology and I are not friends.
I've tried my very best to figure out how to get my comments and photos in this blog's side bar to work correctly, and so far I've failed miserably.
I've read Acts 3 for the third time this week. (Some cool things I want to tell you about that later.)
I've gone through my emails and unsubscribed to fifteen thousand things.
I finished 32 ounces of water about an hour ago, and the water here does not taste like my water at home.
This waiting room is uncomfortably warm.
I've discovered that I did leave a couple books at the hotel that I'd like to be reading right now. I intentionally left them there thinking I wouldn't have the focus to read anything, and now here I am with time on my hands.
Jeremy woke up, and we've had quiet little mini-discussions about life things. It's hard to have real conversations because other waiting people are in earshot.
Speaking of other waiting people, the nearest family has had several entertaining conversations. Right now they are discussing the oily-ness level of their hair, but their morning has covered lots of family drama, Britney Spears' new freedom from her conservatorship, lost earrings and where they have been found, surprise sisters they did not know existed that arrived on their doorstep, and other fun subjects. I have been moved to pray for them, but so far I'm not sure what to pray. So will you all please pray for them as well?
1. We got to the hospital on time and with ease! Hooray! That may have been my biggest fear for today, and God took great care of that.
2. Liberty has zero fear today. She is full of joy, and every concern she has expressed this morning has been addressed wonderfully by the staff.
3. They are trying a different anesthesia and have a plan in place to help her quickly if this new one gives her seizures as well. Keep praying about that, please.
4. Keep praying for the surgeons and team.
5. Keep praying for the people God wants to minister to through all of us.
6. My muscles stopped tensing last night, and they have been loose all morning so far! My migraine is gone as well! Extreme happiness for me!
7. I don’t *think* we’ve forgotten anything??? 😁
8. Mercy and VeeVee sounded extremely happy on the phone last night. VeeVee, my clingy girl, even got off the phone in the middle of our conversation because she would rather play with her cousins! That was such a relief to my heart! The cousins are also homeschooled, and Tuesday is their co-op day. My girls are thrilled to get to see their cousins’ co-op and join in on their learning fun. Mercy’s only concern last night was that she was going to be the only girl in a class of boys today, but you could hear a mixture of pleasure as well as dread in her voice. Liberty teased her on the phone about it, and then got to have fun joking around via phone with all her cousins.
9. We were all in bed around 8 pm, and Jeremy fell asleep around 8:30 last night. I didn’t fall asleep until around 2 am. The room was hot, and I just didn’t feel right, but my muscles had stopped cramping, so that was wonderful. When I woke Liberty up this morning she had a small stack of thank you notes made for everyone who would help her while she was sedated today. She said she made them in the night because she couldn’t sleep. She also says the one thing besides getting rid of this pain in her heart that she is looking forward to from the surgery is getting to sleep. So hopefully we are nearing the end of our sleepless nights.
I woke this morning at 5 am and smelled wonderful smells coming from the kitchen. Jeremy had woken up at 4:30 am and operated in his love language - food. He cooked breakfast, lunch, and supper for us and packed it for the hospital. I just ate breakfast before starting this post. It was yummy!
This was Liberty this morning right before surgery.
And this is Jeremy now. He is sleeping. I have no idea how he can sleep anywhere and everywhere. I wish I could do that!
Well, what we were hoping for - miraculous healing without a surgery - did not happen today. Liberty says she is glad for that because she was looking forward to all the new people she’s going to meet during her stay in the hospital. Plus it’s always fun to have a new adventure in life, and neither of those things would happen if God healed her early. I have to admit, I am also excited about the week ahead and finding out who God has for us to minister to and be ministered by.
I have learned that he makes my life so much easier because he can see big picture things that never occur to me. In this case, he took care of all the financial aspects of this situation, all the logistics of our stay, and all the arrangements for food and getting there.
That left me able to focus completely on Liberty, Mercy, and VeeVee’s needs, which was wonderful for me.
But he didn’t stop there. He surprised both Liberty and me by whipping out Mr. Smiley today when Liberty was struggling during one of the tests at the hospital. Jeremy purchased Mr. Smiley 15 years ago to take to the hospital when I was giving birth to Liberty, and Mr. Smiley has come to the hospital with me for every birth since, and for my gallbladder surgery, and for my brain injury stays. I cracked up when I saw that he had come for Liberty’s hospital excursions, too!
“Contact has been made, and the packages were dropped.”
We met Uncle Nate and Trinity in an empty parking lot and said goodbye to Mercy and VeeVee for a while. 💕
We are on the road to the hospital and mostly on time. We had a peaceful last minute panic packing this morning, and usually morning panic packings are NOT peaceful, so THANK YOU for your prayers!
We’re getting an echocardiogram and a bunch of tests this afternoon, and then meeting with the surgeons and the entire team to discuss the findings and the plan for tomorrow.
Surgery is scheduled for Tuesday at 6 am.
Liberty is excited. No fear for her at all. She has lived with intense pain for 15 years, and the pain has ratcheted up exponentially in the last six months. That pain that I always attributed to heartburn turns out to be her actual heart, and she is thrilled at the prospect of surgery because it means no more pain after she heals!
Jeremy took several days to process all the information coming to him and to work through the initial fear and trembling at the thought of releasing his baby girl into the hands of unknown surgeons, and now he is running point on all the logistics of getting us there and back, where will we stay during the surgery (we still don't know anything about the surgery or how long it will take or how long she will be in the hospital afterwards), dealing with insurance pre-approvals, and all that.
My job is to stay on top of communications with the hospital. That is a full-time task all by itself because THEY WILL NOT COMMUNICATE! So frustrating.
But God.
I have to calm myself down.
I found myself struggling with Mom Guilt last night and this morning. Beating myself up at the stupidity involved in mistaking heart pain for heart burn. We've been reviewing Liberty's symptoms and realizing all the times over the years when she has stopped playing because she couldn't catch her breath. Not your average out-of-breath, but full on almost heart-attack-like symptoms, and I just said to her, "Take a break. Rest. Relax." What kind of mom doesn't realize her kid needs heart surgery, anyway? After FIFTEEN YEARS of evidence!?
Me.
This mom.
I didn't catch it.
I sent this text to my friend Jane: "All this time I have been translating her pain to 'heartburn,' but it is much much more than that. She doesn't actually have acid reflux. She told the doctors she constantly feels like her heart is exploding. She can't find a comfortable way to sleep at night because she hurts so badly, so she hasn't slept for most of this year, and the doctors confirmed that was an accurate description. I feel like a horrible mother. She has been saying this to me for years, and I just changed her diet or gave her a heartburn pill. My poor baby!"
She texted back: "You had no idea of what really was happening, so don't beat yourself up. You are the best mom for her and Mercy and Vee! God did not give you X-ray eyes to see what was happening, just like He didn't give me neurological wisdom to know what was going on with [my child]. He gives us what we need today, our DAILY bread. Today, that looks like being on the doctors' discussion plans and 'patiently' waiting."
Peace returned to me, and I had to laugh at her quotation marks around the word patiently. How well she knows me!
I'm so thankful God surrounds us with friends to speak truth into our lives. Keep praying for us, my friends. We are all needing your prayer support!
"I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them." Isaiah 42:16
Every time I speak with the medical personnel at the hospital, I am reminded how out-of-the-ordinary this path is. They don't have protocols in place for the way we came to them, and because of that, they don't know how to respond to me. I've lost track of how many times I've been told they can't tell me something or they can't do something because Liberty doesn't have a cardiologist. And then the barriers suddenly break down, and they do the thing - whatever it is - for her anyway. God is doing this. He is her cardiologist.
I called the hospital again to find out the latest news. Liberty's surgery is scheduled for Monday and Tuesday, November 15th and 16th. The doctors saw her case and bumped her to the front of the line. They have no other news for me than that. Their internet is down, so they cannot direct me to a website with more information about the procedure. The nurse on the phone said, "It is low-risk," when I asked her for specific details about the surgery, and when I pushed for more information she told me she would put an info packet in the mail to me.
The lack of knowledge is frustrating. Stumbling around blindly is aggravating. I keep being tempted to anxiety and anger at the poor communication. But God. God is turning the darkness into light right before every next step. He isn't lighting the entire pathway, just what needs to be stepped on next right before we step. He is making the rough places smooth, and I am experiencing amazing peace when I stop trying to see the entire path at once.
So, it's the following day (Thursday, November 4th), and I still don't have any answers but a whole lot of questions.
In my last post you read that I had decided to take Liberty home since we weren't getting any response from the cardiothoracic surgeon and that I had no idea what kind of surgery was in store for her. I began researching once I had everyone tucked safely into bed last night.
Today, I waited by the phone for a call that never came until Jeremy told me maybe something had gotten lost in translation and I should call the cardiothoracic surgeon myself. Good thing he said that, because he was right. They had never received the message from Dr. C. The person who answered (I'm not sure her position) looked Liberty up in the system and after reading the notes told me she would put Liberty's case before the surgeons directly. It turns out there are four surgeons, and they will be having a meeting either today or tomorrow to discuss the best course of action for Liberty.
Good thing I didn't stick around the hospital! I'd have been paying for a bunch of hotel nights that we didn't even need. :-)
Well, I'm back to blogging, it seems. At least for the time being.
For those of you who don't know me personally and have been following my blog from afar, (I have missed you, by the way - Que and Spencer, I'm talking to you) my previous post probably left you hanging. It turns out, God decided to miraculously heal me of my brain injury. I was brain injured for two years, and then God stepped in. He healed me August 17, 2019, and I've been back to normal - or my version thereof - ever since! I'll share that whole story in another post some other time.
But the reason I'm back to blogging is that my oldest, Liberty, who is now 15 years old. Can you believe it? My little Yibby Gace from way back when? She seems to be in need of heart surgery. We just found this out yesterday, and I've been sending texts to so many people and copying and pasting and re-copying and re-pasting. So this morning, I decided I needed to collect everything in one spot, and just refer people to the one spot. So here is my one spot.
I'll start a new post to catch you up on yesterday. This is just a transition post to ease the abruptness of my blogging again. :-)
I have really missed blogging by the way. I'm thinking of keeping it going even after Liberty's situation is resolved.
I hit my head July 22nd on a child-sized porta-potty at the St. Joe Pickle Festival (which makes an awesome story, by the way; I was the talk of the hospital). That was 19 days ago. I've now been diagnosed with Post Concussion Syndrome/Traumatic Brain Injury. They say it could last a few months, a year, or possibly permanently.
What does that mean for me?
I am unable to take care of my kids. In the first few days after it happened, I got lost driving in my own small town. I put naked food into the oven without using a pan and then burned myself by reaching in an hour later to get it out without oven mitts. I crashed my car into stationary objects and then sat in the driver's seat and laughed hysterically, scaring my children.
I was taken to the emergency room in the middle of the night a week after I hit my head because my daughters ran outside to tell the neighbors Mommy needed help. Jeremy had been traveling before, during, and after my bump, so he had never witnessed any of my symptoms. I don't recall telling him about them, either. I wasn't really communicating well. My brain had stopped complete thoughts and sentences by that time. In fact, it's only been this week that I've begun communicating again, and look at me now! An entire post full of complex sentences and correctly spelled words. (Hopefully.) We won't mention how long it has taken to get it all written and spelled right. At least I can do my own editing now! Today is turning into a good day. This morning was rough though.
I joked with my mom that I have Numbers Tourette's. At the hospital they kept asking me what my birthday was, and numbers just bubbled out of my mouth every time. Once I remember saying, "7-7-7-7-7-7-12!" I had heard myself stuck on seven, and in trying to force the sevens to stop coming out, I popped out a twelve. Who knows where that came from! I still get words mixed up, or completely lose all my thoughts and am unable to speak entirely. That last is extra annoying when it happens in the middle of a conversation with someone. Other times I have so many thoughts that they overwhelm me, and I can't remember how to get them to come out of my mouth. I had been crying whenever that happened, but I'm learning to just sit quietly or go somewhere to be alone so I can focus on just one thought. Once I have it, I can come back out and push a few of those words out of my mouth. Thankfully, my mom and Jeremy and I have played enough Taboo and Password and Finish Lines over the years that they can usually guess what I'm trying to communicate. See? Playing games as a family pays off! I also get syllables inside words mixed up like forbe instead of before that auto-correct turns into Forbes. :-) But I came up with a pun last night! It popped into my head out of nowhere, so I assume something in my head had been secretly mulling it over since the idea was planted a day before. That's encouraging.
Then there are discouraging times. I am unable to dress myself. Picking out clothes stresses my brain too much. Too many decisions. And then figuring out how to put them on is overwhelming. So Jeremy dresses me. My mom cooks for me. My kids help me color. I struggle to pick out the colors, but I can stay in the lines if they tell me what color to use. It's all very humiliating for a girl who likes to think I'm good at taking care of people and planning situations. Well, not any more.
Involuntary processes have been affected as well. My heart is out of rhythm. Sometimes I'm gasping for breath even though I'm not low on oxygen. My chest aches and my entire body feels "off." That's the worst one, I guess. The others are just annoying. I am unable to fall asleep. My brain seems to be on high alert at all times. It knows something bad happened, and I pretend it is standing guard to keep something bad from happening again. I can't seem to convince it that it's safe to sleep. I am also unable to regulate my body temperature. My internal heater thinks I'm cold, so it ramps up my body temp until I'm boiling. Then a little later it thinks I'm hot, so it kindly goes into overdrive attempting to cool me off. Seriously annoying. I feel perpetually sunburned.
During the day, my emotions are usually even keel and upbeat with a few exceptions, but at night things change for me. The lights in the house go out and the people in the house sleep peacefully. I lie (lay?) in my bed -- trying. I close my eyes. I stay still in the dark. My body heats and cools and heats and cools ad nauseam. My heart pounds. My brain has zero thoughts or 50 million thoughts all at once. I gasp for air. I try to find a comfortable position. A couple nights while roaming the house, I found my cell phone that has been confiscated, and my non-processing brain automatically picked it up and started texting people. This annoys my poor husband and mother who have been charged with Keeping Melissa Safe. I'm not very good at Safe.
One night I opened my eyes and I saw light gray skies through my curtains, so I stumbled outside in my pajamas. Oh, that's another thing. My balance is off as well. I thought I could take a walk to calm my brain, but that didn't turn out very well. I sneaked out the back door since the front door squeaks, and I didn't want to disturb anyone else who was capable of sleep. I couldn't walk east because the rising sun hurt my eyes, so I walked south. But the road ends pretty quickly into a farm field south of us, so I didn't get a good long walk in like I had hoped, and - surprise to me - I am not very good at walking any more. One more thing to cross off my list of calming mechanisms available to me. (I can't take a bath or shower without help either because I can't determine if the water temperature is safe.) In disappointment at my own inabilities, I returned home. But the front door was locked, and I couldn't figure out how to get back inside. After some confusion, I eventually curled up on my front porch with my back to the sun. And that's where Jeremy found me a few hours later. VeeVee was crying and screaming, "Mommy!" in terror. Not a happy ending.
They made me promise not to leave the house at night, but I HATE being cooped up inside all the time. I spend most of my days on the front or back porches now, and sometimes people take me for slow, discouraging walks. I like to be free in my mind and my movement, and neither are free right now. I feel so bound up. The other night at 3:04 in the morning, the full, silvery moon beckoned me from my bed, and I stood at the back patio door, my forehead leaning against the cool, smooth glass. My hands fingered the latch; my heart longed to float outside in the moonlight, in the peaceful stillness of the quiet night, watching the mist lying across the top of the pond like a lover. Instead, I remembered my promise, and I stood there staring. It was 4:37 when I looked at the clock again and decided I should quit standing there. That's the longest I've stood unassisted since my injury, so I suppose that should be an encouragement, but it didn't feel so.
Who am I?
- I am a wife who cannot dress herself. My man makes me laugh by picking out lingerie for me to wear and teasing me that maybe he'll just not pick out anything this morning since he enjoys the view too much. (I should be grateful for his silliness and patience and kindness to me, and I am.)
- I am a mother of young children who are better at babysitting me than I am of them. (I should be grateful that my children are capable of babysitting me. I guess I've done my job well. I just didn't expect it to end so soon.)
- I am a grown woman who needs her mother to cook and clean and keep house. (I should be grateful for family members who care enough to stop their lives and enter mine and for a wonderful relationship with my mom, and I am.)
- I am a friend who sometimes cannot understand what is being said in conversations, who usually cannot express all that I am thinking and feeling, who frequently cannot contribute to the laughter and humor even though I am enjoying it all. (I should be grateful for amazing friends who still like me and value being around me and sitting on unusually quiet phone calls with me, and I am.)
- I am a member of several planning committees and teaching teams who has nothing of value to contribute any more and who cannot even attend meetings or fulfill my obligations. (I should be grateful for their flexibility and understanding of my situation, and I am.)
All of that genuine gratefulness doesn't cover up the fact that I am grieving who I used to be, and figuring out who I am now. Even though I understand that most of these - possibly all of these - symptoms are temporary, it doesn't make this current waiting time easier, and it doesn't change the fact that I'm grieving and asking God to show me how to cope with my changed circumstances. I still want to be a person who glorifies and praises God. Because He is still very, very Good. Circumstances cannot change His character, and I choose not to allow circumstances to change my character either, except for the better. But change is always a painful process. Yesterday, Liberty cuddled up next to me and quietly said, "I miss you, Momma." "I miss me, too, honey," I smiled at her and squeezed her tightly against me.
Except, a thought strikes me just now: who I am is not summed up in what I can do or what I can offer. When I was a newborn, I was still me.
So who am I?
- I am God's creation. Damaged, yes, but still His. And still valuable because He values me. Hmmm
I had a newborn and quite a bit of intensity three years ago and realized it was better for me and anyone reading if I just stayed quiet. But God has brought us to a breathing space and set my feet on high places. "And don't it feel good!"
My fingers have been itching to blog again, and funny kids have been saying hysterical things, and the thoughts! All the thoughts! I'm very curious to find out if I will end up having time to blog regularly, or if this is just a flash of fun for tonight only.
Stay tuned along with me! :-)
This year, I decided to be brave and start a real garden. On purpose.
I had a gift card to Home Depot, so while the big girls were in school, I stowed all my stow-and-go minivan seating, and Vee and I drove to Home Depot where I thought long and hard over which supplies would be the best to create a couple raised garden beds. I read all the claims on all the plastic bags and finally settled on some hollow gray cinder blocks to form the edges and some organic dirt with natural fertilizer to fill the beds.
The nice, strong workers loaded my 25 cinder blocks and 16 giant bags of organic dirt into my van. I then s-l-o-w-l-y and carefully maneuvered my new low-riding vehicle through town and out into the country to home. In my driveway I realized I wouldn't have enough time to unload my new supplies before I needed to pick Liberty and Mercy up from school, so I s-l-o-w-l-y and carefully maneuvered my low-riding vehicle to school and waited in car line for my children. They opened the van door and exclaimed in surprise, "Where are we going to sit, Mommy?"
Once they had situated themselves safely among the dirt bags, I s-l-o-w-l-y and carefully maneuvered my low-rider the short distance home. But when I parked in the driveway, I once again realized I wouldn't have enough time to unload my new raised garden supplies before our chiropractor appointment. I sighed, then s-l-o-w-l-y and carefully backed up and headed down the road again toward the office.
About halfway there, Liberty said, "Why am I all wet?" And Mercy said, "Yeah, my knee is sitting in a puddle of water, Mommy." That seemed odd to me because the bags of dirt had been dry when they were placed in the van. I told them to resituate to dry spots. "But there are no dry spots," Liberty replied. "It's wet everywhere."
We parked and walked into the chiropractor's office. Something smelled putrid in there, but I didn't mention it because that would have been rude. After our appointment, we opened the van doors to head home, and a wave of terribleness smacked our noses with reality. I discovered the putrid smell in the chiropractor's office had been us. Oops!
The girls complained, "Do we have to ride home in that? It smells terrible!" It was too far to walk, and I had nothing with which to start a car fire, so we rode home doing our best not to breathe.
Finally at home, I removed the offending bags of dirt and cinder blocks and created two new garden beds. Then I vacuumed the sopping wet van floor and left every door open to air the smell out. That night, I pulled the van into the garage and closed all the doors. The next morning, our neighbor arrived to carpool to school with us, but the van stunk so badly that Jeremy had to take the three girls in his car. We left the van out in the driveway again all that day to air out, but by evening, the smell had not dissipated in the slightest. After we tucked our kids into bed, Jeremy and I spent a few hours scrubbing the van carpets with a special deodorizing carpet spray. We left the van open in the driveway all night to air out, but in the morning, Jeremy had to take the girls to school in his car again. The next afternoon, Jeremy and I vigorously rescrubbed, and a neighbor let us borrow their steam vac and pretty smelling detergent. The van again spent two nights and a day wide open in the driveway. But the gorgeous sunshine and strong breezes did nothing to remove the odor.
In desperation, Jeremy searched our local auto store for some kind of solution. He came home with two car bombs. That's what they were called. They said they would get rid of any vehicle odor, any time, any where. I read the instructions out loud. "Seal all the vehicle doors and windows, allow the vehicle to run with the air conditioner on full blast. Set the bomb inside the vehicle and do not disturb for one hour. DO NOT OPEN ANY DOORS OR WINDOWS DURING THIS TIME! DO NOT COME CLOSE ENOUGH TO INHALE ANY FUMES FROM OUTSIDE THE VEHICLE! **Note to doctor: This vapor causes heart palpitations and myocardial infarctions. Normal treatments for these conditions will make it worse. Please be aware the patient has used this product."
Now, I don't know about you, but that doctor warning put the fear of God into me. "Let's just see what another few days can do," I suggested, but Jeremy has a death wish, and he would hear none of my cautionary ideas. He parked the van in the driveway, sealed all the doors and windows, turned the air conditioner on full blast, and set not one, but two bombs at once inside my van. Then we ran for our lives. THREE hours later, we ventured closer to the vehicle, hoping it would be safe. A sweet smell rolled over us from twenty feet away. "Stay back," Jeremy warned me, and he bravely put his life on the line and opened my van door.
"Whew. That smells...good," I hoped out loud.
Yes, it definitely smelled good. It smelled so good that we had to leave the van out in the driveway to air out for another two days and nights.
That was a month ago, and when you open the garage door in the mornings, our garage still smells sweetly beautiful.
Then I pulled out the box of 2T clothing because she's in-between her 18 month clothes and 2T clothes, and lo and behold, it had big girl underwear in it. Sigh. Maybe I should? I spoke with a couple friends of mine asking their opinions, and they also thought I should go for it.
So.
Today, we had a lovely snow day, and the big girls stayed home from school. I told them, "This is the BIG DAY! We're going to start potty training Vee today!" We went to the basement and dug out Liberty and Mercy's old potty chair, set it up, showed it to VeeVee. She wasn't impressed.
All the talk about potties gave Liberty's bladder an idea, so we encouraged Vee to sit on her little potty while Liberty sat on the big potty. Poor Victory was terrified of the cold seat and the strange sensation on her bare little tushy. She refused to stay seated.
A few hours later, Mercy tried again with her. This time she willingly sat on the seat, and I gave both Vee and Mercy an M&M for their efforts. Liberty didn't think that was very fair, so I doled out M&M's to everyone.
Liberty and Mercy suddenly felt a great need to empty their bladders every ten minutes, and my M&M supply is now running extremely low. Thankfully, they'll be in school tomorrow, so the correct child might get trained.
Victory Joy is my first baby that I've been able to be home with during the day. If you've been reading this blog since it's auspicious beginning back in 2006, you'll know that I worked full-time until my middle daughter Mercy Jane was a year old. So this staying home and raising a baby is new to me even though she's my third child. I can't say that I've loved every minute of it, but I have definitely treasured every minute of it!
Now that my baby has turned one, her little imagination is blowing my expectations away. I don't remember when my other two started imaginary play, but I feel like VJ has started earlier, or at the very least is more advanced right from the start than her sisters were at imagining. But then again, maybe I don't remember what I'm talking about.
What I do know is that living with Victory right now is so much fun! I was reading a picture book to her the other day, and she "picked" a leaf off the page and handed it to me. I'd never seen her do something like this before, so I played along to discover what would happen next. She placed it in my hand and let me hold it for two seconds, then she took it back and blew on it. Then she placed it in my hand for another two seconds before taking it back. She hesitated, not sure how to get rid of it. She finally dissolved it by rubbing her fingers together over the pretend leaf, and it disappeared.
She carries her baby with her everywhere. This is another first for me because Liberty never played with dolls. Liberty had too many brilliant, active ideas to waste her time caring for a piece of plastic, and since Liberty always had something amazing going on, Mercy joined in her older sister's play instead of messing with dolls. So watching VJ tenderly care for her little baby pleases me immensely. Today she fed it a bottle before buckling it into the highchair and shoving a banana into its mouth (which I need to clean out, now). Yesterday, she overturned an empty laundry hamper and the two of them spent the afternoon together inside its coziness.
For now, I'm loving this stage of my baby's life!
I'm cheating a little by backing up and writing after the fact, but it's my blog, and I get to make the rules, so...I'm not cheating at all. I'm just catching up! :-) See?
(That's the way the rest of my world should work, too.)
I mentioned in my October 7th post, that Victory had climbed onto my treadmill while I was running and scraped the skin off the right side of her face. Well, it turned out to be more serious than that. Here's what her face looked like about an hour after the incident. Not very significant-looking, right? I didn't think so either.
Here's how she looked on Day 2. My poor little baby. Still not too bad, though.
But on Day 3, the scabs turned black and grew larger, covering most of her face from eye to chin. Her skin bubbled up and began peeling off in chunks, then bleeding. The places not covered by freaky-looking bubbly skin, bloody spots, or charred scabs were an angry infected red. I panicked. At that point, I realized she had been burned by the treadmill. I don't have any pictures of Day 3 because I was too worried about it to take photos.
The doctor confirmed Victory had been burned and had developed an infection. She said treadmill burns were fairly common, and she gave us an antibiotic and some burn cream with silver in it. Silver is a natural antibiotic, so I skipped the med dosage and kept my baby slathered with the silver cream.
Victory enjoyed licking the cream off her face, of course.
The cream began working immediately. Overnight, the angry red disappeared and the charred chunks began softening until they finally fell off revealing raw pink skin underneath.
Here's what she looks like today, one week after hugging the treadmill. She's healing!
Yesterday, she took the lava rocks from the fireplace and pushed them into the hole where the key goes to turn on the gas fireplace. Yeah. Please imagine with me, my Joy. Next, she sneaked onto the back of my treadmill while I was running, and the poor baby has no skin left on one side of her face anymore. Then, she tossed several toys into the toilet and tried to fish them out by herself.
But, look at the cuteness. (Or actually, don't. It can be hazardous to your resolve.)
While driving home from a party last night, I heard the girls in the backseat putting on a play. "Which vowel are you going to be?" eight-year-old Liberty asked her sister, "I'm A."
"I'll be B," six-year-old Mercy decided.
"No, you have to be a vowel."
"Oh... I'll be E! 'Cause E's the most powerful!"
"Yeah, and sneaky!" Liberty agreed. "Okay, we'll be in kindergarten together. Aaaaaaa," she cooed to her sister.
"EEEEE!" Mercy shouted back.
"No, Mercy! You don't have any other vowels around you. We're not close enough yet. You have to say your short E sound."
"Oh. Eh." Mercy responded.
"Aaaaaa!"
"Eh!"
"Aaaaaa!"
"Eh!"
"Okay, pretend we're close enough now," Liberty instructed.
"EEEEEEEEE!!!"
"No, Mercy! I go first because I'm the first in the word."
"Oh."
"AY!"
"EEEEEEEE!!!!"
"NO, MERCY! You're the second vowel so you boss me around, but you stay quiet!"
"Oh. ......"
"Good! AY!"
"......"
"Yes, Mercy! You're doing it! AY!"
"......"
"AY!"
"I don't want to be second anymore, Lib. You be the second one."
"Okay. You go first."
"EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
"......"
"EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
"......"
"EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
"Okay, you get at the end of the word, now, Mercy."
"I don't want to be at the end. You go to the end, Lib."
"No, Mercy, you have to be the bossy sneaky E."
"I don't want to. I have to be quiet if I'm at the end."
"Yeah, but you're BOSSY. And SNEAKY!"
"Oh, yeah! LIB, YOU SAY YOUR NAME! I SAID SO."
"Ay!"
"....."
The play continued, but since you're not as captive of an audience as I was, I'll draw the curtain there. :-)
B is for...BOOYAH!!!
Because I downloaded the couch to 5k app today and completed the first workout! Tis the dawning of a new era.
August 19th's Challenge was "To-Do," and I am very, very excited about what I crossed off my to-do list yesterday!
Jeremy's Uncle Tom and Aunt Donna gave us a container full of plants last week. Now, I know nothing at all about plants, but my heart loves them. So, I decided to do what I do with all plants: give them lots of sunshine and lots of water. After all, if I were a plant, that's what I would want. I placed the container in my front yard which gets about 12 hours of full sun every day, and I watered the container daily.
Then I called my friend LaRene, who is The Plant Whisperer, and I described them to her hoping she would know what they were and how to care for them. I intended to plant them after I found out what they needed. When LaRene couldn't pinpoint them from my phone description, she offered to come over in a few days to get a visual and teach me how to care for them.
She came over yesterday, and much to my dismay, she declared them to be houseplants. She also declared them to be dying from over-crowding, over-sunning, and over-watering. Wet blanket. Since there is no way on God's green earth that any type of plant will survive in my house (trust me, I've tried), I decided to treat them like an annual and plant them in a perpetually shady spot outside my back door. LaRene and I worked together to create a triangular garden bed where grass used to grow, and I planted my five plants. Well, actually, I planted four plants because one of them looks like it's going to be a trailing kind of plant, so I'm looking for a shepherd's hook and a hanging basket to plant it in. Then it will hover over my garden along with a pretty garden flag that Liberty bought me. I'm just looking for a hook and flag pole. Did you know Walmart and Home Depot consider those two items to be seasonal? How rude.
Here is my new little garden. I've decided to name it my TomAndDonna Garden, and I love it. (Be like me and ignore the pathetic-ness of the dying leaves. They didn't like my front yard, but I'm expecting them to perk up after a few days in my back yard.)
(I hope.)
See? Genius at work, folks. Step back.
If you want to play along, let me know in the comments, and I'll make sure I come read your blog that day. :-) Here's the August List.
So. Landscape.
We've been saving up for landscaping around our house for the past four years, now. We thought we were going to have enough to be able to put it in this coming spring, but circumstances have conspired against us, and we had to use that cash on an emergency situation that came up this summer. Apparently, my brain is still processing that loss because I dreamed about my landscaping last night.
I was lying in bed when Liberty and Mercy came running in with their arms full of unplanted greenery, spilling dirt all over my bright white bedspread. "Mommy! Mommy! Come outside and see!" they shouted at me in my half-wakened state. Only the threat of dirt everywhere forced me to open my eyes. "No! Take that outside!" I tried to command forcefully, but my voice wouldn't obey.
I shakily, still mostly asleep, followed their dirt trail across the carpeting to the front door, and when I stepped outside, I found my neighbor and friend, Trina, just standing up from planting the last bush in front of my house.
"Hi!" she smiled. "I brought over some clippings from my landscaping for you."
I glanced around. My yard was littered with odd pots and plastic buckets all filled with dirt and spindly stems cut from flowers and bushes. I started to thank her, but then I noticed a small plow with fresh, beige, Indiana clay clinging to its blades. That's been used recently, my brain realized. I looked around for evidence of its disturbance and found that all of my areas set aside to become garden beds had been tilled up and mixed with rich black dirt, then covered with peat moss and, in most places, planted with flowers and bushes. "Wow!" Trina had done more than just bring over clippings. She had done all the hard labor to get my landscaping put in as well!
"Thank you!" I told her. "Would you like to come in for a drink?"
"Sure," she followed me to the kitchen sink for a glass of water, and as I looked around my house, I was suddenly embarrassed to have her there. The rooms were devoid of furniture, I'm not sure why. Paint was peeling in large strips off the walls. The ceilings were made of those square tiles you see in old office buildings, but apparently, our roof leaked badly because there were terrible brown stains on every tile, and some were hanging from the ceiling by their corners. Our carpet was old and thin, worn bare in spots, and smelled awful. Every light bulb in our house had been burned out, so I kept flicking light switches with no results. I looked around, horrified for Trina to see the state our family had been living in.
Trina just hugged me. "Looks like we need to work on the inside, next!" she said cheerfully. "I have leftover paint from when we painted Cait's room." She bent down, pulled a crowbar from her back pocket, and began pulling the carpet up at a seam. "Help me out with this. I'm sure everything will look and smell much better when this is gone."
I bent next to her and began pulling, grateful for this wonderful friend.
When I woke up, the dream lingered with me. My brain was having a hard time telling fantasy from reality, and I began doing math in my head, trying to figure out how much we could spare in the budget for paint and new flooring. So I was pleasantly surprised when I entered my bedroom closet and noticed the walls and paint in good condition. Whew! One room that doesn't need to be included in the remodel.
I walked out to the kitchen to start breakfast for the girls, and the presence of furniture and beauty surprised me. I took a good assessing look around. "Wow! My home is beautiful!" I said out loud. The walls are in good condition. The carpet is stain and odor free. The ceilings are a perfect white, with no ugly squares to be found anywhere, and we have plenty of furniture. It honestly shocked me, and I've been periodically stopping my activity all morning to look and admire what God has done for us materially.
I've been going through about a month of ungratefulness. In fact, just yesterday I told my friend Denissa who I bumped into at Walmart, that I needed to copy her habit of updating her facebook statuses with thankfulness. I hoped making a practice of that might encourage thankfulness in my heart and help change my attitude in general.
Looks like God took care of that. With one dream He changed the landscape of my heart.
(Like how I tied that in? Landscape?)
(Uh-huh, I'm that good.)